DH agreed to refinance

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Registered: 11-28-1999
DH agreed to refinance
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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 4:05pm

DH & I have been discussing the terms of the divorce on & off.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:45am

As a very experienced divorce lawyer, I would have to say that if there is any possible way financially for you & your son to stay in your house, the court would probably not order it sold until he graduates from high school, esp. since it's only 2 yrs.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 4:10pm

Thanks so much for your response.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 4:15pm

I think that if he's willing to postpone the sale of the house if he can take out a certain amt. in a home equity loan (that he's paying for), that seems fair.


Right now I'm trying to get caught up on taxes, insurance, water bill (where I live that's high) so that when I have to take over the monthly payments by myself, I won't be behind in anything.

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Registered: 05-29-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:44pm

Susan,


Wow, you certainly are going through a rough time.But I know I don't know you at all, I get a

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 3:44pm

I know exactly what you mean by the rent pmt being almost the same as your mortgage.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 4:08pm

Rika,


Yes, I have often thought that this entire situation is just a nightmare, and I will eventually wake up and everything will be Alright.

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Registered: 03-31-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 6:38pm

I feel the same way -- never thought I'd be in this position emotionally or financially.


I just turned 40 and was thinking a few months ago how it was nice to be "comfortable" financially.

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Registered: 05-29-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 6:38pm

Susan,


It is a long story, but to sum it all up I think he changed, maybe I didn't.He was exposed to what he feels is the kind of relationship he wants-romantic bla blah.It is easy to be romantic when there are no kids around, no responsibilities, no pressure. I have tried for 4 years to work things out but when he admits he discusses everything with his "friend"about our marriage, and finds nothing wrong with that, you know you have a problem. I am scared when he finallly realizes that I have filed, it has been so long living in this situation. I am glad you have support.because this is so scary. This year we would have been together 25 yrs , so it will not be an easy transition. Let me know how things are with you...

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:44pm
Child support laws vary from state to state.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:49pm
I know the feeling that you are never going to be out of debt!