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dh wants a divorce
| Sun, 12-17-2006 - 4:20pm |
after 19 yrs of marriage he wants out.He says he is not attracted to me emotionally any more and counseling would only make me see how he feels and help me deal with the divorce.
We tried counseling before but he said he never opened up completly in fear of hurting my feelings.
Can I stop this or am I just foolish?

tia, so sorry for your pain and finding yourself here! You have my thoughts and prayers. There is not a crystal ball that will show you what the outcome of your situation. If there were, none of us would be here on this board. Trust your instinct (your gut feelings) and that will tell you the best course to proceed. Counselling may be your best approach just for your own sanity more than anything else. Ask your husband to go to counselling and tell him that you want him to open up to you without fear of hurting your feelings and that is the only way to resolve whatever difficulties that he perceives.
Prepare yourself for the emotional roller coaster that will happen. Prepare yourself financially. If you do not now have your own checking and/or savings account (which he cannot touch) get one and put as much as you possibly can into it. Take extra care of your health, get plenty of sleep (I know that is the most difficult for me), take your vitimins, and drink plenty of water! (I know this sounds like a broken record! but it really does help). Try to go for a walk either with your kids or alone. Be kind to yourself and pat yourself on the back for all the good things that you do each day.
Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. --Joy
Why is he tip toeing around?... afraid to hurt your feelings.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~