DH wants to go on vacation together!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
DH wants to go on vacation together!
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Tue, 04-15-2008 - 3:52pm

Last night DH & I were discussing the details of the divorce which includes refinancing to pay off debts and have some money so he can get some furniture.

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Registered: 12-15-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 8:34am
Sounds to me he is trying to use this as a last chance effort to reconcile. If you are afraid that by going you are giving him a glimmer of hope, tell him that is NOT the case. If he can not handle that then tell him you will go by yourself:)... In all seriousness... Be honest with how you are feeling and tell him this is a no strings attached relaxing vacation.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 10:58am

I honestly haven no desire at this point to go on a big vacation w/ him like to the Bahamas.

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Registered: 12-15-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 11:14am
I'm sorry. I guess I don't know much about your story. No, I would not want to go on a vacation with someone like what you described. The Atlantis is very nice BUT SO EXPENSIVE!
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 11:48am

He is searching for a do over, you know when you messed up and want to make amends so it can go back to the way it was.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 2:19pm

Oh, I do think that in some ways he is trying to push the guilt button.