Did he know the seperation papers?

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Did he know the seperation papers?
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Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:19am

~Did your H know that you filed seperation papers and that he'd be getting served or did they just come to him?

~For months every fight I've told him that I cant do this anymore, that I want a D. I've had the papers ready for months now but didn't want to sign them until I was able to tell him they were on the way...however, I'm so scared of his verbal attacks anymore that I haven't told him still.
~Yesterday, I just got it in my head to do it or I will have wasted yet another year like the past 2 years, so I went in and signed and they will start the process next week.
So I'm wondering for those who didn't know and they were still living under the same roof...how did things pan out. I still am going to try to tell him they are coming out of respect but out of fear of his angry outbursts, I'll be surprised if I actually am able to do it.

Thanks for the input

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:35am

I wouldn't say "shame on you".... I'd say that you tried.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:48am
Thank you once again, I need all the encouragement I can get...I'm a basketcase right now. IF I didnt HAVE to go away this weekend to fly my grma to my moms due to illness, I know we'd have our all nighter, Saturday night, then I could tell him, ya know what, I filed, they are on the way. But since that isn't the case, I'll just have to take this hour by hour and hope that I stay strong because ultimately I know, if I decided to stay and work at it...there would be at least 1 more fight in our lifetime and I am not willing to live through 1 more, at least without knowing that I'm traveling towards putting an end to it. Know what I mean?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:59am

Sure... we get to the point where we're just all out of "one more".


Good luck..... with mom and gramma, too.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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