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Did not sleep together
| Thu, 05-31-2007 - 9:13am |
We decided it was not time. Anyway, after a talk and some arguing...I mean he DID offer it and took it away...it was decided that neither of us were ready for that step.
Melissa...hating being a grown-up

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Hugs, Brenda
I think this was a good move for you :-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I am glad you think I did the right thing. I also told him he did not define me.I told him I would not be a booty call and that if he planned to F and run, to think again because sex no matter what was an amotional thing for me because I am in love still with him.
I have allowed too many guys define who I am and I lost who I was. I found myself and then met Shane and let him take my identity. He didn't want to....I forced it. He loved me as I was and then I changed. I became dependent on him and he's the type of guy who gets off on independent women. He wanted me to have a life other than him. No other men, but just friends, a job, school, etc. Whatever I chose that would make me feel whole. I'm working on that and when I do feel whole again, we'll see what happens. But I will have love. I will have fun and I will define my own life.
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
hi...i understand your DH is >>"the type of guy who gets off on independent women.">>, but it seems hes a bit demanding about that (IMO)...i mean, doesn't he take into consideration that in the last few years you moved to his area and thus need to take some time to make new friends, etc?...plus, didn't you have a baby in that time too?...babys often take a lot of our attention those first couple of years...its sad to me, to hear of a husband making his wife uncomfortable to just take a breather to raise her baby, to let her take some time to get on her feet in a new community and make some friends, get a job, etc...from my perspective, your husband actually seems to be quite demanding of you and his intolerance to you taking a normal time to adjust is unfair...and then to actually separate, to move out of the house, because his wife, mother to his baby, is not out socializing more?...that seems very extreme IMO.
i'd think it would happen naturally that as your baby matures and you get used to your new neighborhood, you'd begin to have your world open up more....you mention little league games with your son, IMO thats a suitable and common outting for a young mom...i see you post you have a job and go to school...what more does he expect of you?...that you go out with partying friends?
i just think hes been unfair to push you this way and make you feel insecure about your naturual focus on your family, home, and husband...you sound like a normal woman who adores her family and its a shame hes discontent with his blessings.
just my $.02
best to you!
honey
Edited 5/31/2007 10:13 am ET by honeynvinegar2003
I do have enough in me to say, "Great choice Mel!!"
M
Peace,
Di
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M
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