Did you ask for the divorce?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
Did you ask for the divorce?
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Sun, 11-25-2007 - 7:26pm

I'm not trying to stir up trouble or a debate. Just want to see the ratio here.

I only ask because I was the one who asked my ex for the divorce. He claimed he was oblivious to my unhappiness and accused me of having an affair. Then a week later he filed while I was out of town at a convention (I was served when I got home).

It seems to be the world consensus that if you want out of your marriage because you don't love the person anymore you must be having an affair.

We were married rather young, 19 & 23, we had a lot of growing up to do and ended up growing apart over the next 13 years. I expected the opposite when I got married but I was wrong.

So how many of us asked for the divorce?

TIA
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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2003
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:25am
Well- I actually asked for the divorce- but, he left me a LONG time before that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:18pm
I also asked for the divorce.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 10:59am

Yes- I was the one to ask for the divorce...


We have been together for 17 years since I was 19 years old. I really should have done this years ago BUT like so many other women I thought it best my children have both parents together .


Of course the really odd thing is that my soon to be X and I are now communicating better then we EVER have before!!!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:52am

Guilty!


Another common denominator?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 12:05pm

Karen, I too noticed the number 13 and our situations sound very similar.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 12:34pm

I asked.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 1:08pm
First marriage, my now ex had divorce papaers delivered on my birthday.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2001
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 4:21pm

Okay, this is freaky.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 4:32pm

Well, I had my suspicions for a very long time... and chose to ignore it thinking we'd get things back on track.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 4:07pm

Good question!


I filed out of frustration.

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