Did you have to find new friends?

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Did you have to find new friends?
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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 10:46am

I am so lonely right now, and I truly hope some of you can help me. Stbx now admits he was just looking for sympathy when he told our friends and neighbors all the terrible (and mostly untrue) things he told them. (See my post 16513.5 if you really want the whole story) I realize they weren't true friends or they would have tried to contact me and find out the truth, or at least offer some support. So okay, they weren't my real friends. I do have other friends, but they are LITERALLY all either single/never married/no kids or happily married w/kids and always doing things with other intact families. I think I need to find other single moms to be friends with, but how do I do it? Any suggestions?

Julie

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 11:00am
We were lucky and never really made a lot of mutual friends while we were married. STBX didn't like for his friends to know me or he couldn't feed them full of lies about me. I have found some Mom's groups on-line in the past who were in my area. Maybe you could look into that. We will be moving from Texas to Oklahoma with in the next month so i will get to start all over again, too. For the second time in 7 months thanks to STBX.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 1:58pm

I wouldn't necessarily say that they aren't true friends but divorce makes folk uncomfortable. Especially if they have been involved with you both for any period of time.

Peace,

Di

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Registered: 01-12-2006
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:47pm
Try a support group. I'm sure if you do some research, you would be able to find one in your area. It's amazing when you are surrounded by people who truly can relate to your situation and the emotions you are going through. I wish you all the luck. Pam