Did you want out or did he?
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Did you want out or did he?
| Sun, 06-18-2006 - 10:52pm |
Did you want out or did he?
- The split was my idea
- The split was his idea
- It was mutual
- Other (please specify)
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"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown
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I hope all is going well with you.
My XH had threatened to leave me probably a dozen times over our 20 year marriage. It usually happened when he felt "trapped", I think - like when our first child was born - he walked out a week later. He was only gone for a few hours, but in that time, I decided that I didn't need him, that I could raise our child by myself if I had to. I wish I'd changed the locks back then & told him to stay out. I'd have been happier as a single mom, I think.
Whenever he would threaten to leave, I'd beg him to stay. And then I'd spend the next 6 months cursing myself for stopping him.
It took me years and years of emotional abuse, but I finally wised up and walked out. And I'm soooooo happy that I did!
- L.
I could not have said it better myself. That is EXACTLY how I feel. In the end, I felt my hand was forced, and I had to file due to his inaction. But somehow, the divorce became all my fault.
Same situation about the marriage. He refused to come home at night, and refused counseling at the end. Yet he wouldn't file. It still puzzles me! But I do feel better knowing I'm not the only one who was in this situation. He would tell me that my choices tore this family apart (ie - going ahead with the divorce). Of course, his abysmal behavior over 12 years had nothing at all to do with it.
Follow me to my partner in the siggy exchange...
At first, right after he got charged with his felony & misdemeanor, he wanted out. Said he didn't want to put me through the court trial, etc. I said no, we've only been married for two months, I'm going to stick by you till the end.
Exactly a year to the day of his arraignment, I kicked him out. Couldn't stand his attitude about how everything in life sucked, how everything that ever happened was someone else's fault, etc. Especially couldn't deal with him deliberately breaking his probation and restitution orders.
Funny how the tide turns, isn't it???
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