Did your XH ever regret divorcing you...

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Registered: 01-19-2005
Did your XH ever regret divorcing you...
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Fri, 09-23-2005 - 5:28pm

Did your XH ever regret divorcing you and tried to get back together?



  • Yes
  • No


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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 09-23-2005 - 8:59pm
I hope he does, someday. I also hope he comes home though. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 9:22pm
I voted yes!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 10:57pm

Karen...

Thanks, for some reason your comment just made me stop and laugh so hard I almost fell out of my chair. I needed that. I left. Its real hard. I am busy trying to figure things out one minute and drowning in guilt the next and thinking I should have/could have stayed just one more year, one more month ...something more for the children. But still, I look back and know I stayed as absolutely long as I could, I mean I wasn't even going to make it one more day...and now as I read your answer to this poll, I finally am able to shake my head and I know, really, really know, Yes...he regrets it. I cannot laugh at myself yet, but I am looking to be where your humour is very soon. *HUGS! Anna

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 11:32pm

:-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 1:46am

According to my counselor...he said that people that divorce will regret it about 2 years later. The rate of divorce increases to about 60+ for second marriages.

Why does spouses wants to trade you in..like you are an worn out auto or something.

Now the wife is very insistant on divorce...well..sorry to be so vague. but it is long story. No..I never had affair or anything like that on my part

Best wishes to all...

Rob

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 9:08am

I think the divorce rate is higher for second marriages because people run right out after the divorce and marry their "rebound guy/girl". Also there are kids in the mix and it's hard to make blended families work.

My ex would have married his first girlfriend after me had she not have been smart enough to see he was severly on the rebound. His new girlfriend is "Ms. Perfect". She has a tendency to judge me and my money problems which is a joke to me because it's easy for someone getting alimony and child support to tell someone else how to get by financially. I don't get anything and I'm just a nurse and not some big wig science person like she is. grrrrrrrrrrrr anywhoo, that's severly OT.

No he doesn't regret divorcing me because now he's got a woman with a job that pays well and she gets childsupport and has the "perfect" house and she'll do whatever he says including watching nasty football all day.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 9:52am

i was married and divorced twice.


first husband - father of my son - yes he did try to get back to gether. but he never ever took responsibility for any of the issues that caused me to seek a divorce in the first place. before we got divorced, he said something along the lines of "i don't want to invest all that time and money into seeking therapy if you are going to divorce me anyway". and after we were divorced he tried to get back together "for the sake of our kid".


second husband - tried very very very very hard not to get divorced. but once we got divorced - that was it for me, and i don't know (or particularly care!) if he regrets it or not. i'm SURE he does - but whatever....