Dissolution Papers are Filed
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| Sat, 04-22-2006 - 10:40pm |
Well, my STBX hounded me daily asked if the dissolution papers were ready to be signed. (The hold up was his attorney). When they were finally ready, he said he couldn't take it anymore (even though he had moved out weeks prior and I rarely saw him...although he was into the e-mail blame game and anger issues) and rushed right into my attorney's office to sign the papers and pay half of the filing fee. This was Thursday the 20th. Friday he started e-mailing to ask if they had been filed. THen another note with blame "Why didn't you just go to dinner that night I asked you? I had decided I was going to work on the marriage and cancel my loan to buy another house." (Hmm...I guess I was supposed to know that he was suddenly going to work on the marriage and I was to forget that he said he was miserable and did not want to work on a few days before). He also forwarded an e-mail conversation we had over a year ago (a nice one that ended with I love you). Another mail with pictures of our honeymoon. I just ignored them. I think it would have started another endless round of the blame game. Anyway, around 11 pm, after he knew I was out with friends while he was watching out children, he sent a very nice e-mail. Apologies for the past, wishing that he'd done things differently, regret for not having a future, and how he felt about me in general. I just sat and tried to read through my tears, until my oldest daughter found me. I only replied with a thank you for the positive note and said that it made me cry. Nothing else since then, although when I picked up the kids tonight he acted like he was upset and said that I was only interested in the money since I asked if he planned to pay his weekly child support today or later. Maybe he's hoping I'll break down, call off the dissolution, and let him continue our marriage the way it was. He was like a boarder. I don't need one more person to take care of.
Anyway...there's my two cents. I'm not sure why I wrote other than to vent.
A question though...how long does it usually take to have your case listened to in court once it is filed? My attorney said 30-90 days, but I wondered what the average was. ANd I wonder what we do when we're in court on D Day. Any advice what to do that day? Ugh..I dread it.

My EX used to make me feel like dirt when he didn't feel like I was being submissive enough.... it was a terrible feeling to have to wake up to and go to bed with every day, that if I didn't do what he wanted, there'd be heck to pay.
Usually the settlement process is the hardest, because there are so many decisions to be made... and waiting to be done... and heck, most of us are ending our marriages because we can't make decisions together any more... and we certainly don't want to have to "wait" for what can seem like forever while we're making them.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~