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Divorce 101
| Sat, 04-28-2007 - 8:38pm |
I need advice, badly. Its pretty basic. I want to get divorced but I have no idea where to start. We have a 5 yr old, which provides the biggest conflict for me... the guilt of taking him away from his father. Since I went straight from my mother's house to his house, I have no idea how to start over. Right now, at the moment, I am crippled by fear and I have no idea what to do. Please help. There are more details, but I am sure that you have heard them all before. Another sad love song, basically.
Confused, clueless, and scared.

Hi,
I have no advice for you, but I just wanted to let you know
I am in the same boat.
The thought of making a life on my own for me and my kids (16,13,9)
is so overwhelming & scary.
I also moved from my parents house
to marriage. I Don't make enough money to get an apartment. (which, I think
is the first step by the way)
I don't want to take my kids out of our town, their schools, away from everything.
Do you have family/friends that can help? I think a support system is essential.
It is a difficult situation......sorry I can't help
but, I hope you can find the answers you need.
Just a word of advice - be careful of what you do say to your in-laws. Sometimes they may just be getting information for their son. Blood is thicker than water.
Also, my youngest is 5 as well. He was really excited to move. Sometimes they know more than you know.
Your family may also surprise you and support you.
In the town I grew up in, they have apartments (more like condos) that are rented based on income. Maybe you can look into something like that in a nicer town.
Good Luck!
You know, if you are thinking about this now, and are SERIOUS about it...you will
be sparing your son alot of hurt in the future. I "sucked it up" for many years, thinking I never wanted my kids to grow up in a divorced home. And now leaving will be SO much harder. It's not worth it in the long run. And he is only 5....do it before he gets established in a school and neighborhood with friends, etc. He is still young enough to handle that kind of change.
for me, I feel like I have wasted so many years.
What has that done to them? How will it affect their future relationships?
They never see/get hugs/kisses and hear I love yous.
And, when your kids are saying to you "let's just go out and have a good day with no arguing"
That is heartbreaking as a Mom.
And you deserve to have a relationship that makes you happy....