Divorce and Children
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| Tue, 11-21-2006 - 4:55pm |
I constantly worry about how my d will affect my children. I talk to everyone i can about the reprocussions, including adults who were children when their parents divorced. Below is a bit from an email that i received just this morning. It was very helpful as my dd is the same age as my friend/cousin who wrote the reply. She is now 38, happily married with three children.
""I was about 10 when my parents separated, but 12 when it was final. My Dad received full custody at the end of my 7th grade year. I, remember, switching schools was the most difficult. However, it wasn't so bad, because I had so many relatives. When I look back today, I know, the divorce of my parents, was for the best. There was so much fighting. It wasn't healthy for any of us. Your children will be fine. It will take some adjusting, but in time it will be ok.""

Thanks so much for sharing that. We hear so many horror stories about how our children will never recuperate, and it can be very scary. That was on of the many reasons I stayed in my first marriage far too long.
My son did have a bumpy adjustment at first, but overall, I think he's doing really well now. He just got a great report card and is enjoying middle school. DS was 10 when the proceedings started, and 11 when the divorce was final.