divorce and the extended family

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Registered: 04-25-2008
divorce and the extended family
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 3:43pm

I am having a hard time with the fact that my son and DIL are seperated and talking divorce.


I decided not to get involved in the dynamics of the he said she said.

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 4:32pm

Hi Mahalamika!


My husband walked out on me and my kids 3 weeks ago and I am going through a living hell right now because I want him back so that we can work together to make this marriage work.

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 5:19pm

Thanks Stormey!!

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 9:59pm

My opinion is that you are doing the right thing by staying out of it.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 11:23am

Mahalamika,


Hi. The best thing my mother AND my MIL did during my divorce was keep out of it. My mother expressed her support for me which meant the world. My MIL did both my Ex-husband and I a big favor by also keeping out of it. Divorce is heartbreaking enough without having someone meddle from the outside.


And your right a divorce affects a whole community of people. It's not the solitary "answer" many think it is. The truth is, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors between two people. Encourage your son and his wife to seek marriage counseling. Offer to babysit if they need help to keep appointments, etc. But don't offer "advice" or "help" as you don't really know what's going on within the marriage.


The "buttinsky" MIL isn't helping her daughter. She's mucking around in a situation in which she has no business and she may even make things worse.


Again, encourage your son to get marriage counseling. Assure them you both love them and are there for them, if needed.


Good luck and hope they can work things out.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020


Some commonly misspelled words on this board:


You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:43pm
I think you are doing the right thing.
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Registered: 04-25-2008
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 11:20am

Thank you Cl for the suport!


I agree all the way.