divorce, assets, guilt and what's fair

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2006
divorce, assets, guilt and what's fair
6
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 2:39pm

I will try to be brief as my ongoing saga is over on the alcoholism board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 2:46pm

This is a pretty complicated situation, so my best advice would be to consult a laywer.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2006
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 3:32pm

Thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2008
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 5:12pm
I suggest you RUN to an attorney right away and find out what your legal rights are and fight for them. You have yourself and three children to survive and carry on with. You deserve all you are legally entitled to, and I hope it is at least enough to rebuild your life and credit worthiness for your families sake. Be smart here. Get a separate bank account and don't allow him to have access to it! Be financially responsible for your future! You can do this!!! Your and your children's future is waiting!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2008
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 7:57pm

Oh boy, what a tangled web some of us end up in, including myself. I did the self divorce because he was not fighting any of it and I did it to save any amount of finances I could. The lawyer just gets too much, BUT, I was able to do that because of a non profit org in my area. They help women, especially those who are battered and those involved with alcoholics. They offered a divorce clinic once a month with real attornies to answer any questions you might have and guide you through the paper work. If you feel you can get what you need with out fear of him coming up at the last minutes and fighting for stuff, look into any resources that may be offered like I had it was a life saver. You might check the yellow pages or call your local hospital if they offer any alcohol programs and ask them if they know of any groups willing to help with divorce.


Good Luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2007
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 9:10pm

Hello rocket..so sorry to hear of your dilemnas...I understand as I am married to an alcoholic too.


You need to RUN to an attorney and get a consult NOW. Inheritances are not marital property to split unless he comingles the money. Basically you are not entitled to his inheritance if he keeps it seperate from the marriage. If he uses any toward marital bills or home improvements, etc..then you may get a share..Only an attorney can help you on that and it's still up to the judge to decide.


As for the forged checks, basically anything done during a marriage is not considered a crime. I would ask an attorney, there are always loopholes and clauses. You MAY be able to go the small claims route...


~Lisa  =))

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 9:41pm

Rocket,


Yes, you need an attorney ASAP. You need to know your rights and responsibilities.


I'd also like to ask you: when you knew

CL-Wisdomtooth2020