Divorce Final-Need Encourgement

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Divorce Final-Need Encourgement
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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 9:10am

Hi everyone!

It's been awhile since I've been on this board however you will be seeing more of me. LOL

Here are the cliff notes version of my story. This past March my husband was arrested for embezzling money from his employer. I had no clue what he was doing nor did I know of his criminal past. We were together 4 years and married almost 2. I served him papers the day before what would have been our 2nd anniversary. I've done a lot of healing and growing in the past 6 months and still have my bad days.

My divorce was FINALIZED last month (WHOOO HOOO) and things are going better than expected. I took back my maiden name and have been focusing on rebuilding my life.

The thing I struggle most about is I feel like this man has taken away my "prime" years of wanting a family. I'm 37 years old and I wanted the happy family life. I feel like I've missed my window of opportunity because of my age. In addition, I've put on 40lbs since we were together and that hasn't made me feel good about myself. Lastly, even though I didn't do anything wrong, I feel like a failure because of the divorce.

I would like to date again and would love to someday marry again. The thought of dating scares the cr*p out of me and I don't feel I'm ready. I think a lot has to do with my insecurities with my weight gain.

Any thoughts or encouragement? Thanks!

Melissa

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 9:48am

Hi Bella!


Welcome back to the board. We're glad you're here.


Divorce is a series of "events." You've been through a lot since last spring so don't pressure yourself to "fast forward."

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