Divorce Hearing Was Yesterday--It's Over

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Registered: 05-24-2006
Divorce Hearing Was Yesterday--It's Over
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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 10:41am

It's over! But with a twist. My ex husband and I had an agreement that we gave to judge and she said she would not accept it because there was no child support. We thought it was fair that since we have joint physical and legal custody that we didn't want either to pay child support.

Well, the judge said that since my ex makes 3x more money than me, that he needed to pay me child support. We went back and forth 4 times before she agreed to $150 a week. Both of us didn't want this and now my ex is mad at me. I can't believe a judge can do this! Now im worried that my ex wont be able to afford to stay in the marital home!!!!

Any advise?

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 5:38pm
Congratulations! My "final" hearing will be on April 4th and I hope mine will be over too. I'm no expert in this area, but since you and your ex agree that you don't want to accept child support so that he can continue to afford the house, the court won't necessarily know whether or not he's paying you, unless you bring it up down the road and take him to court.
Belinda
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 12:14pm

Kate, your kids deserve to have the same standard of living whether with you or with your husband. The judge's ruling was to help equalize that. It's not fair that your husband gets to easily live in a nice home only contributing half with his large income, while you struggle to raise the kids on a lesser income in a lesser home.

You really don't need to feel sorry for any sacrifices he has to make, because you're making them daily and just not complaining about them like guys do.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 1:14pm
Listen to sdlostandfound! He can come up with an extra $150.00 per week, especially if he makes 3x your salary. If not, he can work some extra hours when he is not with the children. Plus, you were just saying previously how strapped you were and had no choice but to move in with your bf because you were barely making it....take the support. The support guidelines are there for a reason.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 12:35pm

From the judge's standpoint... it's not about what you both agree to do.... it's about protecting the rights of the children and seeing past what you and your husband are planning to do... the the hard facts of the reality of what commonly happens.


From my standpoint.... the less I have to communicate with EX the better.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~