Divorce Hearing Was Yesterday--It's Over
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Divorce Hearing Was Yesterday--It's Over
| Fri, 03-23-2007 - 10:41am |
It's over! But with a twist. My ex husband and I had an agreement that we gave to judge and she said she would not accept it because there was no child support. We thought it was fair that since we have joint physical and legal custody that we didn't want either to pay child support.
Well, the judge said that since my ex makes 3x more money than me, that he needed to pay me child support. We went back and forth 4 times before she agreed to $150 a week. Both of us didn't want this and now my ex is mad at me. I can't believe a judge can do this! Now im worried that my ex wont be able to afford to stay in the marital home!!!!
Any advise?

Belinda
Kate, your kids deserve to have the same standard of living whether with you or with your husband. The judge's ruling was to help equalize that. It's not fair that your husband gets to easily live in a nice home only contributing half with his large income, while you struggle to raise the kids on a lesser income in a lesser home.
You really don't need to feel sorry for any sacrifices he has to make, because you're making them daily and just not complaining about them like guys do.
From the judge's standpoint... it's not about what you both agree to do.... it's about protecting the rights of the children and seeing past what you and your husband are planning to do... the the hard facts of the reality of what commonly happens.
From my standpoint.... the less I have to communicate with EX the better.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~