Divorce but living together?
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Divorce but living together?
| Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:18am |
I posted earlier about me catching my H in the act of cheating. I had fallen out of love about a year and a half ago, so the shock of it wasn't all that intense for me. In fact, I could care less, its just justification for me that all those times in our 13 yrs of marriage when I thought he was cheating he was. I have asked him to leave and he won't. He has moved to the basement. The kids don't know anything. No one can believe that hes still living with me, and can't believe how it doesn't bother me. Well confession time, I also cheated about a month ago. So i am feeling extreme guilt over it. How can I take him for all hes worth when I've gone out and done the same thing? Everyone is supporting me and saying how awful it is that hes cheated and how could he do it, i just sit there in guilt saying i did too. I guess thats why I haven't proceeded to quickly on kicking him out. Has anyone ever lived to gether but got divorced? Our marriage is totally over, but I think i could live with him for the sake of our children for now. I am just starting school in Sept so this is all overwhelming, we can't agree on nothing. There fore we need lawyers which are 2500 just to speak to one, money i don't have. Any ideas??

Hi there.... I lived with my then-STBX while we were divorcing.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I don't really have anything to add. We're "separated" but living together and it is very hard for me. STBX is moving out on 11/1 and I for one can't wait. I would look into the legal aspects of it but if it works for you and your kids, I don't see any reason not to. I do know that you can't do that in NC, but in some states you can.
Kate
I am still living with my husband. I filed for divorce yesterday. I have asked him to leave. He won't. He is economically destitute and won't leave until I give him his money, and we need to get our marriage settlement agreement finalized beforfe I do that. For me, now that I've filed, living with him is easier. I don't look at him and say "there's my husband and he should be doing xxx." He isn't my husband anymore!!!!
I have an almost one year old daughter so having extra hands around now and again is helpful. There are things I hate about it, like him staying out late and then making a lot of noise when he comes home. How dare he not respect the household when I'm footing all the bills and letting him stay here? I can't wait for him to leave but I'm able to deal with it for now.
It will not be a long term thing, however, and when everything is final and the house is no longer tied up as community property, if he still doesn't leave I will be more aggressive and call the police to get him out if I have to.