to divorce or not

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Registered: 04-13-2008
to divorce or not
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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 9:18pm

Hi all~


My dh and I have been married for 10 years and have two young kids (4 and 10).

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 3:40pm
I really, really recommend counselling.
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Registered: 01-28-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 9:13am

Sunflower-

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 10:59am

I agree with musiclover. you should definitely try counseling. Marriage is hard! There will be times when you don't like the person lying next to you, but that's part of taking those marriage vows. You enjoy and cherish the good times and fight through the bad times.


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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 11:08pm

WOW!

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 11:11pm

THANK YOU!

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:01am

Rebuilding a marriage isn't an overnight type of thing, regardless of the reason it needs to be rebuilt. I did a TON of praying and just kept telling myself that my heart would tell me when 'enough is enough'. So, despite my DH's behavior (it took him 3 months to end the affair), I just hung in there, did what *I* was supposed to do to help save the marriage and let the rest take its course.


What I didn't mention in my original post is that both DH and I have already been divorced once. DH and his ex divorced due to the same reasons that most people nowadays do... "I'm not in love with X anymore. We don't agree on anything. We don't have any fun." Neither of them put in any effort to save their marriage, so once they decided to separate, they agreed that it wouldn't get nasty and they would work it out themselves. That lasted a couple of weeks. They had a nasty divorce too. Now DH's