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divorce shame?
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 2:59pm |
I read this article, and it really spoke to me:
http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22087/22955/?CMP=KNC-DC_YSM_6
Divorce was the right answer for me, but I still feel ashamed of it. I never thought I would be one of those people. Now I am.

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I never thought I'd be one of "those people" either.... but, I think that divorce was the last resort.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Your post made me think...
I think I am most ashamed because my husband did rush for the divorce. He has never tried to work it out. We've only been married 3 years and have only lived together a little less than half that time. He says everything should have been great by now and no kinks to work out. It just makes it that much worse you know, because he wouldn't try at all or give it anytime. I have tried and gone to individual counseling, but you can't make a marriage work if the other person doesn't want to. I feel like I am ashamed because I should have tried harder, sooner, done better...ugh!
I, too, feel the shame. I'm in the beginning process of divorce as well and saying the word seems so final. Even deciding which forum to post in was difficult for me. I almost didn't want to start posting in the "Surviving Divorce" forum because of the word. It's like people recoil when they hear it. I used to think "till death do us part" and we promised each other we would never let Divorce separate us. That was when we were teens! We weren't mature, grown ups making smart decisions. We were young and in love and that's all that mattered. There were no thoughts of bills or family obligations or being ignored by a partner. Even though I want the divorce and I am pushing for it I have TRIED time and time again to love a man that I can't seem to love anymore. It's just not fair anymore to either of us or our children. However, I still feel shame and I feel sadness for the loss of my "family unit." Even though I have found happiness with someone else who makes me feel amazing. I am still sad and still grieving. I take things 1 day at a time. This article hit very close to home.
Thank you tall for posting the link.
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