Divorce Sucks!!!!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Divorce Sucks!!!!
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:12pm

Here's why:
~*I lose my best friend (that was what my husband was when we were going strong).
~*Change BIG scary change is going on in my life. (I don't know if I am ready but here it is happening before my very eyes.) This change is happening because of us splitting up and this being the only way I can pay the bills.
~* I feel bad, lost, and unhappy as a result.
~* I'm very scared (almost paralized by fear)
Wow, I don't feel so good I wish I could cry or yell at someone.
I will say it again: This really sucks!!!!

Blessing to All,
Anna

In Love and Peace, Anna
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Registered: 11-22-2001
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:17pm

Yep, divorce does suck and change (for me) is not a good thing. But sometimes change is good and can open so many more doors for you. Instead of writing all the negatives about divorce down, write some positives. Such as: I can eat cereal for dinner if I want, I can lounge all day in my pj's without a care, the house may be messy-but its my mess, etc.....I know this helped me alot when I was leveled by all the changes happening.

Focus on you and make some new goals just for yourself. Do something for you every day--even something "minor" like: buying new perfume, doing your nails, buying a new pair of pants.

Hang on tight-it is a rough ride, but I promise you it WILL level out in time....

Hugs

Deb

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Registered: 03-28-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:20pm

oh my god, that is so how i feel. i wish i had something to say to make you feel better. just wanted you to know i agree COMPLELETELY and i hope you feel better sooner than later

take care
bridget

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 3:40pm

Hi Anna..... debs is right..... posting here, journaling, screaming in the shower (or crying--that's what I do).... whatever you need to do to get it out... BUT.... when I journal (and usually when I journal it's because I have something negative to rant about) I always write down at least one positive thing.... even it it's something as simple as "and I'm still breathing" or "the sun was nice today"


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 5:30pm
it is really really scary. but you will get though and when you do you will realize you are a lot stronger than you thought you were.
:)
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 6:00pm

Oh yeah, divorce sucks BIGTIME.


but please remember, EVERYTHING happens for a reason and God NEVER gives us anything we cannot handle.


I thought divorce was the end of my life. I fought long and hard to keep a man who didn't want me. I look at it as I lost those months of my life, not in those months did I lose my life. No way would I let losing a man, best friend, father to my children and biggest supporter dictate how I would be for the rest of my life. I am OK right now, 19 months after the day he left. I have even begun a life with someone else.


It will be ok, remember, EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Start making those reasons today.


Hugs,


Angelena



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Registered: 02-23-2005
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 7:34pm

yeah its weird im reading angelenas post and thinking about a discussion i was having with my SO the other day. my divorce was AWFUL, the worst thing i have ever gone through.
but it made me so much stronger, and honestly i wouldnt change a thing about my life now.

it was so hard but i wouldnt have the kind of life i do today if i hadnt been married and then divorced. i have learned so much, which sounds really stupid im sure if youre still going through it.

but i wouldnt be the person i am now if my life had gone as planned, and im pretty glad for that. i wouldnt have matured enough to meet my SO and have a great relationship with him. i wouldnt have developed the focus i have now on whats important to me.
just thoughts.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 7:04am

and great thoughts they are.