Divorced almost 2 years this December
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Divorced almost 2 years this December
| Tue, 09-04-2007 - 6:58pm |
but my ex has been gone since Oct 2001. I've pretty much gone through all the emotions there is to go through. I survived it. There is hope. However, my life is not "better", my life only got "harder" emotionally speaking. I feel as if my kids will never have the best....
After 6 years...I still struggle emotionally. Anyone else relate?

Hi seabreeze,
Yes, I completely understand. That's why my life partner is my cat.
What do you mean when you say that your kids will bever have the best .... ?
Hi sea
I can so relate. My Divorce will be final one year ago this month and while my X left me financially crippled and I ended up getting alimony for 10years and after that I dont know what I am going to do,my X and his now live in g/f are looking at new homes in the $300-400 dollar range. Its amazing to me how my pooor X who bitched and moaned the entire 3year divorce process that paying me alimony would be a financial burden is now out looking at million $$ homes.
He is the only person I know who is better off financially now then at the beginning of the divorce.
Emotionally I am lonely and people tell me to join dating sites but the last thing on my mind is to get involved with anyone else .While my X is eager to get married again I cant see myself ever putting myself out there again.
I was married 26years and in the end I was married to someone who does not care if I survive financially or end up living under a bridge,so I cant see myself ever setting myself up for this to happen to me again.
My only companion is now my 14year old poodle. now him I can trust and him I know all he wants is my unconditional love and a pat on the head . Men,who needs em..I know I dont need a man in my life to complete me. I will survive this ,plus I am a firm believer in KARMA> so I know the X will get what is coming to him. That will be the happiest day of my life.
I can definitely relate... it's been well over 2 years for me too and time doesn't seem to be helping at all.
Try out this book: "Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends" By, Sandra S. Kahn. I'm just starting it now... and I can definitely see how I'm still emotionally bound to my XH.
{{{hugs}}}
Ali
Sea,
Divorce is not something you "get over" in a set amount of time. Everyone's grief and recovery phase is different. However, I'd suggest you seek counseling to help yourself since its been 6 years since the physical departure of your spouse. You might need a little prodding to get on with your emotional life. Sometimes you can
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