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Divorced filed/alcholic/how 2 stop lovin
| Sat, 04-21-2007 - 10:47am |
Hello All!
I was wondering if anyone can give any great insights or motivation for my situation.
I left my husband this past Dec because I couldn't take his drinking no more. He is the "fun" drunk so he doesn't think he has a problem and he feels i should accept him for who he is..i tried and couldn't take no more.
So now 5 months later and I can't stop crying. I have tons of mixed emotions for him and my marriage. we have a 20 months baby so it is hard to not have "family" time together.
But most of all I still love him but i really don't think i can fully trust him again!!!
I have been going to Al-Anon so in time that should help me, but how do i stop crying and feeling so sad!!!
I am not "depressed" in a way of medical attention, i just am a very emotional person to begin with, so now it is 100 times worse!!
Any suggestions : )
I was wondering if anyone can give any great insights or motivation for my situation.
I left my husband this past Dec because I couldn't take his drinking no more. He is the "fun" drunk so he doesn't think he has a problem and he feels i should accept him for who he is..i tried and couldn't take no more.
So now 5 months later and I can't stop crying. I have tons of mixed emotions for him and my marriage. we have a 20 months baby so it is hard to not have "family" time together.
But most of all I still love him but i really don't think i can fully trust him again!!!
I have been going to Al-Anon so in time that should help me, but how do i stop crying and feeling so sad!!!
I am not "depressed" in a way of medical attention, i just am a very emotional person to begin with, so now it is 100 times worse!!
Any suggestions : )

I wish I felt something for my alcholic stbx besides hatred. Stay with him long enough and you'll hate him for all the years you wasted on him.
Find an alanon chapter near you. It is helping me tremendously.
Good luck.
Al-Anon is a great resource. Keep going and reading the literature. maybe you'd do well to pick up some of the Melody Beattie books as well. They're in all of the libraries.
Other than that, my only advice would be to set yourself some positive goals and focus on them more than the past. Give yourself some really inspired reasons to move forward with your life and away from the unhealthy relationship.
gotta say i'm with gr8fulmom on this one. i have nothing but loathing for stbx. he continues to make me miserable even though he is out of my house. i hate him and his drinking. i'm just glad i got out with my kids before he pulled me down any further.
good luck to you confused. its hard. seek out an al-anon group for support.
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