divorce...never been married

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Registered: 04-13-2006
divorce...never been married
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 12:27pm

I posted a couple of weeks ago about my story....

Here is the update:

I live in Texas never have been married (common law...only because we have kids and house together) now I'm being told I will have to get a divorce. I understand that we have children and property together, but to get an actual divorce even though I've never been married to him. Well, I guess thats a mistake I'll have to live with. Well, my DS has been gone for the week with my sister and I will be going and picking him up this weekend. Boy, did I get yelled at for letting him go... STBX said he did not give his permission for DS to go. Which is a lie because he gave him spending money. Well yesterday I went straight home and started dinner, I haven't cooked in a long time because STBX hates my cooking- well he gothome at 12pm from work and came in and woke me and my daughter up because I neglected to call him during the day. so he turned all of the lights in house and demanded we sit and talk... I finally have had enought and I told him that yes I did want out of this hell and that I would be contacting a lawyer and he laughed and said there's not much you can get... it's not like you were worh having around anyway. Needless to say me and DD slept in her room.

This morning after I made it into the office I called the attorney that was recommeded to me and made an apponitment- I have gathered most of the informantion that I need to get started... How long does the divorce process take? If I leave our house do I risk losing it? I know that my attorney will be able to answer these questions but I'd like to know just in case I do have to leave...sometimes he get very verbally abusive to me and the kids. I just can't stand to have my babies go through that any longer.Sorry so long I just had to vent.

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 3:08pm
Hi,
I'm in New Jersey and am in the final stage of my divorce. I'm not sure about Texas, but here I was able to take my child and leave the house. There was nothing I could do to get him out to escape verbal abuse. I ended up returning a month later because he couldn't pay the mortgage w/o my 1/2 of the money. While I was gone my attorney advised that I put together a written schedule to give him daddy time so that I didn't appear to be keeping my daughter from him.
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 7:58pm

Vent away!


Did an attorney tell you that you need to divorce? Because in the end, a divorce is nothing more than a legal proceeding that dissolves an actual marriage (even though it feels like much more than that!). I've never heard of divorce for common-law marriage.




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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 8:33pm
I'm thinking that with a child and shared assets a "divorce" will cover all of the legal things that need to happen in this situation.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~