Divorcing when there is abuse
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Divorcing when there is abuse
| Tue, 06-19-2007 - 10:37pm |
Hi. I'm new to this board and thought that it might help to ask everyone for advice about my worries. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I have been in court for over a year now, for my divorce, but mainly my children. I have three children, 9, 6 and 4. My husband was very abusive to me and to them. We went to court and the judge ordered supervised visitation for an hour and a half every Saturday. Then after a few weeks my husband was given unsupervised visits and he has them for four hours on Saturdays now. I have court on Thursday and know that they will give him visits for 8 hrs on Saturdays and then overnights. I am so scared and know that he will hurt them. No one from the courts believe me. They say that i am a liar and that he is a good father, because that is how he portrays himself to others. I am so scared, but i don't think I can do anything else. Is there any advice to give me? Thank you so much for your help.

Oh my dear, I don't have advice, but sending hugs.
I hope you have a good attorney; surely there is a way to document the abuse.
I will pray for your children.
M
Hi Happiness,
First thing you have to do is document EVERYTHING he does. Next go over to the Recognizing Domestic Abuse board. There is tons of support and resources there that can help you.
Good Luck.
Terry
Visiting the domestic Abuse board will provide lots of options for you. Off hand I would say - contact your local Women's shelter (1-800) number in the front of your phone book (the good folks on the domestic abuse board will also be able to provide that for you as well). They can provide you with a court appointed advocate which may help as far as child custody goes...definitely worth a shot in your case....
((((((hugs to you))))))
Rose (who just recently left an abusive marriage - life is great again!)