Divorse Tips- please advise
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| Thu, 05-04-2006 - 3:05pm |
Hi, I'm new here. My story is that my H cheated on me 2 years ago and we tried to rebuild but have been unable to. I have been spending two years trying hard to rebuild. I have been contemplating divorsing him for a while now but have not been thinking about it seriously. However, I finally realised that I can never get past the initial betrayal and hurt that he caused me. He gutted the trust from our relationship and I don't feel like we can rebuild it again. There are also personality and character issues with my H that makes me lose love for him.
So I would like to know, whether you have any tips on how to conduct a divorse. If you had to do it again, what would you recommend I do or what would you do differently? I just need some tips about the whole divorse process and how to do it as painlessly as possible while protecting my interests because I think H is capable of pulling a fast one on me and it getting nasty (which he is capable of doing) e.g. hiding assets or money.
We don't have any kids. What would you recommend I include in a divorse agreement? How can I stop him from trying to hide his assets or being dishonest e.g he's thinking of transfering money to his mum. I'm just hoping for an equitable divorse.
Also if you know of any good divorse attorneys in the Bay Area CA, that would really help.
I do appreciate your advice.

www.divorce.net has some really good information. If you're military just add /military after the word net in the web address. That's where I started. Good luck.
Carol
firstxbetrayed,
I am so sorry you had to see you DH in bed with another woman. That is certainly not something you are going to forget anytime soon. Be strong, don't let him sweet talk you into taking him back. What he did is unforgivable. You're free now. Live a good life, that's the best revenge.
Curious
I think the first and best step is to have a consultation with an attorney. They can answer your specific questions relative to California. Sometimes, the legal part can be easier than the emotional part!
We also have a great community web site that has excellent tips and resources: Board Web Site
Lastly, one of the best ways to locate an attorney is word of mouth. But if you don't feel comfortable with that, your local bar association can also be helpful in finding an attorney. Here's a link to the association in your area: San Fran. Bar Assn.
How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
- Anne Frank
Took copies of all the bank statements, 401k info stock info.
Stashed some pictures with a friend
Stopped paying my lawyer sooner. I am 21k into him and now I am running up bills with him. I knew sooner or later I would run out of dough I just wished I put him on a payment plan sooner.
Did more online research before I left
Consulted an attorney before I left not after