do i need an attorney?

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Registered: 08-24-2008
do i need an attorney?
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Sat, 09-06-2008 - 7:23pm

okay, so here's the deal. STBX and I agreed on an amount of money that he would give me when we get the divorce and that in return, i would sign the title to the house over to him as well as my half of the timeshare. i dont want either. I am trying to get into nursing school and just need enough money for that. The money isnt the concern. I feel like since we have this agreement, i dont see the need for a lawyer. well.....wed. night i went balistic and found on his cell phone bill all these calls to this one particular number and i went crazy calling him and textin g him and demanding answers. well i pissed him off enough that he told me he was geting an attorney and that he suggested i do the same and that things were no longer amicable. well...he had to take me to a dr. appt friday and he said that he was stillwilling to do what we had agreed on, but that he he still has an appt. with an attorney. basically, he threatened me that if i go crazy on his ass again, he isnt going to be nice. my question is should i get a lawyer to protct this agreement or is getting a lawyer only going to cause problems? i dont want to make things messy and i drawn out, but again, i know what i am entitled to and he has a large sum of money in stocks and bonds from his mother inheritance and should things get really bad, im sure i could fight for that money. i guess someone should be on my side if they are going to be on his, but i dont know what getting an attorney is going to do for me.....


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 8:47pm
Ok, I'm biased since I'm a divorce laywer, but I think you should at least see a lawyer for a consultation, so you know what your rights are.
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Registered: 07-06-2008
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 11:10pm
It certainly is difficult keeping
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Registered: 03-30-2008
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 8:30am
My $0.02 is get one. There are things I never thought of (or knew I had to think of), before I talked to my attorney. So while it's expensive, I believe it's worth it.
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Registered: 08-24-2008
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 8:58am

Dear Music Lover,

I appreciate your imput. Obviously you would know best since you deal with this on an every day basis. I know in my gut that what we have agreed on is fair, im just afraid of him taking that away from me.

I'm going to contact an attorney this week just for my own protection. why should he be protected and me not?

thanks.

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 9:44am

Yes, get attorney. Plain and simple it is for your protection.


sonya...

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 4:30pm

I always say... even if you both agree on things and have your own agreement, NEVER sign anything until you let an attorney ON YOUR BEHALF (and your behalf ONLY) review it.


There are so many things to consider, and many, many times an attorney will know about things that need to be included that if overlooked can be a nightmare (and expensive) later to go back to court to undo or fix (because once you "agree" or divorce, that's what it takes to fix things legally).


Don't do this without an attorney!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 12:13am

Colleen,


Getting an attorney means you don't have to deal with the emotional baggage associated with dealing directly with him.

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 6:11am

thank you thank you thank you.


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Registered: 09-08-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 4:30pm

I'm really not trying to stir the pot at all, just trying to understand a little bit more.

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 5:19pm
well..why it is uncontested and prety much amicable, that doesnt mean i wanted the divorce. i agreed to it bc i am not willing to stay with a man who isnt in love with me and doesnt want to have children with me. it angers me b/c Its not been so long since we split and 1 week aftyer we split, he's already seeing another woman. i am not crying affair....i am hurt.

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