I have been married for 5 years and am in my early thirties.
I think you would be doing your son a big favor by not exposing him to a house in which his dad feels it's ok to verbally abuse his mom (I bet he does this in front of your son)--when is it going to escalate to physical abuse?
I am always seeking validation and do not know why.
Maybe you should find out.
I was in a verbally abusive marriage and we are now divorced.. what I learned in the last few years about myself was that I did need validation and alot of
The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be for your son. Make a clean break now, before he has to experience anymore of this behavior, and thinks this is how men treat women. You know your future ex won't change.
I am sorry
You are a victim of domestic violence. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
I have to respond to your post because it gave me chills. It sounds like you are telling my story. Let me share a little with you. I was married 7 years, and have 4 kids with him. After years of emotional abuse, and threats I got a rental home for a trial seperation 2 years ago right around the block from the marital home, which he wouldn't leave. Not only was he telling the kids that I didn't love him, but he told them I don't love them, and was telling them for months that I had a boyfriend who I loved more than them.
I know how agonizing this decision is so I am not going to tell you what to do but I will try and give you a bit of insight. I am currently in MC and IT with a husband who has been verbally abusive among many other things I won't get into. I can tell you that there have been 2 or 3 times I decided it was enough but was roped right back in. Mainly because of the fact that we have 2 kids and I am a SAHM. If I were able to support myself right now I would be gone in a second. I am taking slow steps towards that, my oldest will be in K next year so I'm hoping I can work full-time then. But if I had the means to get the hell out I would've by now. I convinced myself that it was better for my children to have a "stable" 2-parent household and my own needs were selfish. This has resulted in a huge mess (which is on many other boards) but I really would encourage you to seek a lawyer immediately. They will advise you on what you need to do to protect yourself and your son. Do not continue this cycle. It doesn't get better and not only that, you end up dug deeper in. I know the tremendous guilt involved when you think of divorce but I also know that my home is a thousand times more peaceful when my H & I are not together in it and THAT is what your child needs. Good luck to you.