Do I tell?
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| Sun, 10-22-2006 - 8:34pm |
I'm having a heck of a time deciding whether or not to tell my STBX that I'm moving out. Briefly, we've been having trouble for a long time. He's very narcissistic and dissociative. I'm very angry and fed up. We've both been to lawyers, we've been sleeping separately for 10 months. We tried counsellng, it didn't help. He is using all the usual threats (sue for custody, no support, etc) to scare me into staying. A few weeks back I dragged the kids out of bed and ran to my parent's house in the middle of the night because he was going bonkers- talking to himself, yelling, cursing, banging on things- because I told him that I was leaving. I came back to the marital house because I wanted the kids to have a stable environment rather than be in a hotel until my new place is ready. I told him very specifically that I was only coming back until I found somewhere to live. Now that we're here, I'm convinced that he's certain that I'm not leaving. I know he'll lose his mind again when I tell him.
My mother thinks I should warn him. My father thinks I should just leave a note on moving day. What do you all think? I am afraid of his irrational behaviour, but I feel manipulative preparing to leave without warning... what should I do?

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~