Do you feel ready for divorce?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Do you feel ready for divorce?
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 7:01pm
I was SO sure this was it, I am done with STBX, sick of his crap, lets get the divorce started. And yet, I'm not sure if that is what I really want right now. I know I don't want to BE with him right now, and I'm not sure if there would even be a place for him in my future if he DID staighten out....but in my heart I just don't feel READY for a divorce. KWIM? I don't know, maybe I just need time to get adjusted to being on my own first, and then one day I'll feel good about getting divorced.
So, is it realistic to tell him lets be seperated for 6 months and then see where we stand? I just feel like I can't rush into a divorce when I know I still love him, I want to work through those feelings first. I just feel stupid thinking this way after 5 years of BS, you'd think I'd be relieved!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:52pm
It's not easy to actually DO IT.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-09-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:54pm
I'm right there with you. I know the time has come, and I know this is the best thing for both of us. But it still hurts, and it's still so hard. Some days I think I should just stay and keep living the way I have been. But I know in my heart that's not fair to either of us. I've waited so long to make this move, it probably would've been better if I had done it years ago, but I don't think I could've. I just hope I'm strong enough now to do what I have to do and not cave in.
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Registered: 01-25-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:12am
I am so in the same boat. I have been asking him to go to conselling. But he says he "is not going to change" I am miserable with him. I feel alive when he is not around. I am going to tell him this week that I want to separate. I am nervous, scared, excited, worried and happy all at the same time. I don't think he is going to take it well. So I am expecting the worse.
But I know have to do this and now. I am still young and it is not good for the kids to see us fight all the time. *Deep breath* I will be happy when this is all done...now just to figure out on how to tell him.