Do you get used to being alone?
Find a Conversation
| Sun, 05-27-2007 - 9:07pm |
I'm sitting here in day two of my three day weekend without my girls, missing them terribly and realizing that this is the first time in my life I've lived alone for any lenght of time. I lived with my mom before I got married. Now I'm 47 and will be alone, at least every other weekend for the rest of my life. How long does it take before I stop crying? Seems that's all I can do this weekend.
This is really stupid to feel this way. It's not like I had companionship with stbx? His relationship and mine was with a six pack. Why does it feel so weird to be alone in this house? I've been emotionally alone for years. I only had to make two changes to accomodate him not being here. I drive the kids to school as well as pick them up now and I mow the lawn. That's it. So why do I feel so alone without the drunk in the basement?
Sometimes I don't get me. Or am I just missing my kids and remembering what when he was here they were always here.
Edited 5/27/2007 9:08 pm ET by gr8fulmom1

Pages
When I first got my divorce, I thought that my chances of meeting someone again were over. You are just getting back on your own two feet. Get divorced, find yourself and give it time.
I'll be 53 next month and realize the pool of men out there isn't exactly as big when I was 19, but nonetheless there are quite a few single/divorced men available. Although a lot of the guys are looking for something young to boost their ego, many have done that and found out it isn't worth it.
In the meantime, take those empty days you know are coming and plan something specific to do so you will be looking forward to it.
Figuring out how to fill them is the hard part right now. All I want to fill them with is my kids.
I think it's human nature to resist change. I keep telling myself that this change was inevitable given my kids are getting older. It really would have only been a couple more years before I'd be spending large amounts of time without them as they'll be off with friends and then off to jobs. I just really wanted those couple of years.
I hate stbx for taking that away from me.
That's a great post. I agree totally. Living is the only way to get out of the funk. No matter who initiates a split, it hurts both parties and there is mourning time. Crying is so normal...I do it often, but I do it constructively. I mourn my loss alone in my room or in the shower where I can literally wash the tears down the drain and wipe my face clean. By the time I am out, I feel refreshed. A good cry can do that.
My loss is fresh still. My second DH left me 6 weeks ago. We are trying to work it out but he's very unresponsive right now.
Anyway, it's easy to sit alone and feel sorry for yourself, but living does wonders. I hope she realizes her worth.
~Melissa~
<a href="http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wtCMCc4/">
<img border="0" src="http://tickers.Ticker
<a href="http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wtCMCc4/">
<img border="0" src="http://tickers.Ticker
Pages