? Do you let STBX nieces nephews still

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Registered: 04-18-2003
? Do you let STBX nieces nephews still
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Sun, 07-10-2005 - 4:50pm

When I found out about STBX cheating on me and his whole family knew it (very close with his sisters was 2 of their maid of honor been in the family 16+ years) I cut of all ties. I told them how hurt I was by them and that yes blood is thicker than water but what about my DD she is their blood did they think this wouldn't effect her in teh future? Because they allowed their baby brother (EVEN though he is their oldest brother but treat him and still do like a F&^$%#$ baby) to sleep with this other chick (one of the sisters sis-n-law) in their homes with my DD in the same bed. And how nice it is now that they have produced a baby that my 5yr doesn't understand how she could give her a sister when he is married to me still. (divorce pending 8/9/05)

At my DD games he has brought some of his nieces and nephews to the game. And they still call me Aunt. Do I allow this? I mean I know it isn't causing harm to anyone but I have explained it to my DD that mommy isn't friends with Aunt &&%$ or Aunt &%$# or so on and so on....Becaue she will say mommy daddy is taking me to Aunt &&^% why don't you come like you used too?

I have been letting her know that things will NOT be the same.

I don't see these kids very often.

Just wondering -- I know I am sounding like a bytch.......

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 5:33pm
My STBX's family is my family too. I refuse to give them up. They bring me great joy. I learned more about life from my MIL than I did from my mother. If your ex extended family is causing you pain then by all means sever the ties, but just remember the children do not have to pay for the sins of the father/mother. Hugs to you. Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 9:25am

Oh yeah, all his neices & nephews still call me aunt - As a matter of fact, I am in RI & i have his 6 yr old neice here from S.D. for a week & its great for my 5 yr old dd.

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