Do you speak when you are angry?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Do you speak when you are angry?
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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 9:44am

For me, this statement is so true.... I do a much better job of communicating when I wait until I'm not angry.


Speak when you're angry, and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret. -Lawrence J. Peter


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 12:04pm

When you found that saying did you see my picture right next to it?

100% agree.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 12:28pm

Unfortunately I do speak when I'm angry and I let it fly. Bad! Bad! Bad! I'm usually fine until the ex says something inflammatory and then I let it fly, he then walks away after he's sufficiently ruffled my feathers.

Yesterday was an example. He stopped by to bring my daughter her little tent that I got her for her b/day. I asked him when he was coming to pick them up on Sunday. He said by 8:00 pm and then told me to have them ready. I told him to at least call and let me know. I mean "by 8" could mean anything. I mean am I supposed to have them sitting and ready to go all day? I tried asking him this but he drove off. Just his little way of controlling me still I guess. Just looking at his stupid shaved head makes me want to scream obscenities. He goes around with this stupid look on his face all the time, duh duh duh.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 11:13am

I have learned to not let things boil up but at the same time I don't talk either when I am mad. I work through them in my head and just let things slide into a more calmer mode before I open my mouth. It helps.


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Registered: 06-11-2004
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 4:12pm

Im finally learning how to do that. LOL, I never realized how important it was. I always wanted to handle things right then and there. My ex never like to talk when I did try to let things calm down it was like he wanted to forget there was ever a problem to begin with.

But your quote is soooo true. Out of anger my ex said some very nasty things, disowned our son and now its been over a month since we spoke over 2 months since he's seen him. I know he wishes he could erase that message he left me that fateful night. I do wonder what he's thinking if he wants to see the baby, im sure he does. Sometimes I have the slight urge to call him, I do wonder if he's okay sometimes. I still dont want anything bad to happen to him and a part of me still and will always love him that I have accepted.

But I wont give in. He went too too far and he has to suffer for that. I do hope he will be man enough to see his mistakes and want to see his son. I hate the waiting though to see when if ever it will happen.