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| Thu, 03-08-2007 - 11:32pm |
Is there something wrong with me.
H had an affair for 6 years. We've been supposedly rebuilding for 3. The past year we've been worse than we've ever been. No intimacy, fighting a lot. At Christmas I told him we needed to fix things or we were over. Nothing!!! January, I begged him, cried was devastated, told him at the end of January we were over. He's been in the other room since then. February, I've been dealing with it and am still up and down but know it's over. He's acting as though things are just normal. We're still living the same, I'm still cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing for him. Still ferrying kids around between us.
I can't stand it though, he doesn't bring up anything, I have to in relation to our split and then he says I'm fighting with him. Then I don't bring it up and it goes on forever until I bring it up again. He's probably happy with situation, he doesn't have to sleep with me, I'm barely talking to him, it's the same as before except he's got no hassles from me.
I need this to be over with, he says why can't I live with things the way they are for a while and why do I have to carry on like this. I just don't want him in my face anymore. I can't move on while he's there. I'm going out with the kids all the time so I don't have to face him. Not because he's nasty or anything like that - because he seems oblivious to what is going on. I need closure, I need to start my new life and I can't do it coming home to him everynight.
Life is going to be much harder when he's not there what with having the kids full-time and doing it all myself but it will be easier than this. Other people I know who have separated have done it in 2 different houses, we can't afford it until we sell ours and he's stalling on that and on doing the odd jobs he needs to do before we can put it on the market.
Does it make sense to anybody?? Am I mad!!!!!!

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Thank you for understanding Diva and clearing it up for me {{hugs}}
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