Does the crying ever stop?

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Does the crying ever stop?
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Sun, 04-16-2006 - 8:29pm

Hi everyone..

I've been here since the beginning of March. May of you know my story that my STBX embezzled money from his employer. Besides the fact that he's sitting in jail, he is terminally ill (liver disease).

Anyway.. lately all I do is cry when I'm at home. I go into that ugly cry and can't stop. I cry because: I wish my life was the way I knew it. I love him and don't want a divorce however I don't see any other way. How can I trust a man that lied to me. After what he did to me I feel I deserve better (this is the head speaking no the heart).

Yesterday two of my friends came over and we packed all his personal belongings (boxes are in my garage). I walk into what was our closet and it seems so empty.

For those of you that went through a divorce while you still loved your STBX, did you have this hard of a time. I find Sundays the HARDEST day to get through.

Any encouragement?

Melissa

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 9:25pm
Melissa, I can tell you it will get better. I know right now It doesn't feel like it is though. A year later I still cry at times, but not as much as in the begining. My best advice to you is take care of you. Allow yourself to have your crying sessions, but when they are over go on with you life. I am just now learning to do this. I wish you the best. You've come to a great place for support. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 8:01am

Thank you so much for your reply. It is comforting to know that it will get better because right now it's so hard to see that.

Thanks again for your reply.

Melissa

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 12:18pm

melissa - it does stop. in fact, you have taken a huge step in packing up your ex's stuff, i think that will take you a long way toward 'closure'.

i didn't love my second husband - it wasn't EASY for me to walk out on him, but i didn't love him. however ---- what DID help get thru things was some personal therapy. have you tried therapy? it may help you work thru all your emotions.

also, if you know that sundays are bad, then you might want to plan things, in advance - go away, make plans, ask your friends to help you out.

hugs.....