Does the crying stop?

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Does the crying stop?
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Tue, 02-28-2006 - 9:18pm

Thanks for all the support to those of you who read my very long, crazy story of my cheating husband. I know the marraige and our 13 year relationship is over, he has made it clear to me that he is in love with the OW. I still have to go to work and school every day. Everyone knows me as a happy and upbeat person, and I'm on day 15 of a long uphill battle. I'm finding myslef at least laughing and cracking jokes at work (most people there know my situation), however 5 minutes later I have go into the bathroom to sob.

When does this stop? I just want my life back....

Beanie

PS Last night I found out my husband called a family meeting with his brothers, parents and sisters-in law to apologize to them for lying to them for months about cheating on me. Of coarse his brothers support him, but their wives (all my best friends) are still angry with him and told him they need time to grieve for the loss of our marraige and it will be a while before he can bring his new GF around. I felt like my heart was ripped out when I found out he went to his family (my family too!) to ask them to accept his new GF after I only found out two weeks ago.....

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:33pm
Beanie, Hugs to you. "When does this stop? I just want my life back...." I have said this many times. I would like to know the anwser too, but there is no pat anwser. I am almost one year out and I can tell you it does get a little better. Give it time. I wish I even knew if getting my life back is possible or am I doomed to live this way. One year later, I still cry, but I am finding strength everyday. Take care of yourself.

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:54pm
I am so sorry for you, as I know how badly it hurts. Hang in there, and take it day by day. Good luck!
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 7:59am
Wow, it's only been two weeks. Give yourself more time to grieve and process everything. I found out the last week in Thanksgiving and Christmas was awful. Now, however, I am doing really well. I don't get wrapped up in stbx's life and stuff though. I don't call him unless it has to do with the girls and even then I try to use email only. I just found that distancing myself from him completely, finding my own support system and focusing on ME helped me to deal with everything. I go to counseling when I need to and I've found a few ladies that are going through the same thing as me so we can talk together. This is just a process and you have to experience all of the stages in order to heal. Be kind to yourself...you deserve it.
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Registered: 01-29-2006
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 8:10am

No, it doesn't stop, but it lessens. Now it just sneaks up on me when I don't expect it. It's been about 6 months. I hope he drops dead while they're doing it (not on his visitation weekend, of course).

Laura

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 12:36pm

hang in there sweetie...


i promise you this:


- the crying does stop. you are in mourning now, you are scared, you are angry - but this too shall pass. its a promise. i remember when i was going thru my divorce - i was walking around feeling like a pot about to boil over. all someone needed to do was say 'good morning, wassup' and i would feel tears pop into my eyes.