Does Depression Come At Different Times

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Does Depression Come At Different Times
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 10:43pm

Have any of you found since your divorce that the depression from it comes out of nowhere sometimes? Like I'll have a really good spell and be happy and then sometimes I get so lonely and just want to be married again. I live away from my family and have no children, so it's just me in the house. I haven't had any luck dating, so that's why I get lonely, too. I do have girlfriends I go out with sometimes. I'm thinking about next week joining a divorce support group just so once a week I know I have a place where I can talk to other people who are going through what I am.

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:10am

I think we must all cycle through the emotions for a long time.

I would definitely look into that divorce group. I am in one. There are people in all different stages and all ages and situations, even cultures. Depression is one of the big struggles for most and anger, for many.

The only challenge I think I find in the group I am in is that it has no structure, no goal; we can all wallow as long as we like, so to speak. Not sure how long I will participate from that perspective. However, the insight I have gained from other's sharing has been very helpful. I am also encourage by some of the strength I see in the people participating.

GL finding a group that feels right to you!

M

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 8:47am

A divorce support group is a wonderful idea.

Susan

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Registered: 05-05-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 4:48pm
Mine does. I can be fine for days then it like I can't even get out of bed. I am seeing a terapist tomorrow. I hope it helps.

 

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:26pm
Thanks for the feedback! I called a church today and I'm going to their support group Wed. night for divorced people. The lady I talked with was very nice and it sounds like I'll really gain a lot by meeting with the group.
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Registered: 02-03-2007
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:06pm
When you get married, there are celebrations, gifts,clothes, cards. When a baby is born, presents, cards, ballons. When someone dies there is a funeral, support, nice memories. When there is a divorce there is nothing. Of course there is the problem of when to remove the ring, what to do with it. But thats about it. Friends take sides. Families try, but are afraid to say anything for fear of the tears. So basiclly you are on your own. Things do get better. There is life after divorce. Go to the store and get the CD I Will Survive. Forget who sings it. I'm sure someone can tell you who sang it. Play it atleast 10 times a day. Good Luck. Tomorrow is always a new day.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:48pm
Mine comes and goes. At first, it was very, very hard and I lost a lot of weight. The doctor put me on antidepressants and they did help. But mainly what helped me the most was time ... and eventually meeting someone special. My divorce is still not over and it's going on two years now. I'm more frustrated than anything else and still get down in the dumps that I can't seem to get resolution to this nightmare. Continue to do things with your friends and just try to keep busy.
Hang in there, Belinda