Does Divorce Cause Weightloss?

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Does Divorce Cause Weightloss?
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Sun, 06-29-2008 - 1:40pm

He has been gone since 1:30 Am give or take 6-25-2008 when he went to jail. I stepped on the scale and am 10 lbs lighter. WTF?
I had a bad day yesterday and sat here with a couple of Heinekens feeling sorry for myself and crying my eyes out. But I have been eating. Even at night once or twice.
Is there a possible way that he was stressing me out so much that I was actually unhealthy and gaining weight? Is there a link between stress and cortisol like they say in the TV commercials? Heck I will be back to the weight when I met him in no time!
I was wondering what was wrong with me. I had been gaining a steady 10 lbs a year in the last four years or so. Geesh. What am eye opener. I know I was always worried about him making horrible decisions that would screw our lives up. His drinking would get so bad he would hit me or smash our things, and would have the luxury of not remembering what he had done. I always remembered.
UG!
When I think about what a fool I looked like in front of our friends...
I stuck it out because he was such a great guy when he was sober, but even that had deteriorated lately.
We settled this lawsuit halfway and he had himself convinced when he was drunk that he wanted a divorce and to become a cocaine dealer.
Oh yeah lets have all our assets frozen--genius.
At least now I have filed for divorce so if he gets in trouble or kills someone I am not legally responsible.
Perhaps this is causing me to lose weight.
Well that and i lost 200 lbs of as*hole.

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Sun, 06-29-2008 - 2:26pm
FWIW, I lost 30 pounds during my separation... I was literally too upset to eat... It was one of those unexpected fringe benefits... unfortunately, I've put it back on, but was nice while it lasted...

 


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Registered: 11-25-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:01pm

Hey there blond-zilla,


I'm sure nerves alone will incline you to eat less and lose weight.


The problem is that this kind of weight loss is the worst form of weight loss - its not purposeful or controlled.

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:53pm

its like you didn't read what I was saying.
i am eating healthy. I almost always have but just couldnt lose fat.
Brown rice lean meats and salads and its falling off me. Now finally.
I dont touch fast food.

its stress of not knowing what horrid mood he will be in and what degree,
Not knowing how drunk he might get or get pulled over or smash things.
the stress is gone.
Him i do not have to worry about anymore,

i think its been adding size to my ass for years and that is why I was unable to lose fat.
There is no way I can be losing muscle. I eat plenty of protein and omegas and amino's.

I haven't touched sugar in years.
I think my adrenals were simply exhausted.

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:59pm

I only lost 175 pounds of ugly fat when I left my XH. (sorry.... bad joke)

Actually, the last months of my marriage were so bad, I'd been unable to eat much when he was around, so when I moved out, I was able to actually eat and I gained weight. NOT a good thing, but I'm happy and content with ME now.

I'd bet that your metabolism is in overdrive because of the separation stress, and maybe all that time of good eating is just catching up to you!

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:06pm

I also lost weight since my separation.

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 4:37pm
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 7:56pm
honey let me tell you something divorce is the ultimate diet since my STBX walked out 7 months ago i have lost 40 pounds no joke i couldn't make this stuff up if i tried.
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 10:03am
I'm down around 15 lbs as well. I think the adrenaline must start flowing or something, metabolism increases?? I'm not complaining though!!