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Does it get any easier?
| Wed, 08-06-2008 - 5:58pm |
Nine months ago I asked my husband to leave. We were having some major issues and I had just given birth to our son. I felt the best solution for the constant fighting was him moving out. We have talked about divorce on and off since he moved out. We weren't married for very long before I had asked him to leave (we were married for a little over a year). I thought that since we are a young couple that eventually we'd be able to work out our differences. Yesterday my husband called me out of the blue and said he wants us to finally get divorced. We haven't really tried to work out our problems and his excuse was lack of time. He has a

Oh Girl,
You are not going insane! You are having what I
Jts,
Hi. There is a lot to be said about separation that can be helpful. For starters, it gives you both "breathing space" from the daily frustration/confrontation that living together every day can bring.
That said, separation alone doesn't solve anything if you don't seek counseling while you're apart. So, I do suggest you seeking marriage counseling before deciding to divorce. Go alone or go together, but go. Go in the spirit of discovery not "I'm going to fix him or he's going to fix you."
It will do both of you a lot of good. For starters, you'll find out what it is you truly fight about. You'd be surprised what really lies below an argument. It will also help both of you decide whether you want to work on the marriage or progess to divorce. The other "silver lining" of marriage counseling is that you learn important things about yourself that you'll need for the next relationship in the event of divorce.
We all bring "baggage" into a marriage. Some deal better with leaving it on the curb than others. Find out what your "baggage" is and I'll gaurantee you better success at your current marriage or a future one.
Best wishes,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
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You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
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