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Does this seem fair?
| Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:39am |
STBX and I are going into mediation sometime this money and he would like to just settle and get this over this.
| Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:39am |
STBX and I are going into mediation sometime this money and he would like to just settle and get this over this.
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I would not listen to HIS lawyer. Remember, HIS lawyer's job is to do the best that he can for HIS client. You and NOT his lawyer's client. Legally, HIS lawyer cannot give you legal advice. That is a conflict of interest, and can get him in a lot of trouble. So if his lawyer said that a court would approve that or made any LEGAL representations that was an acceptable solution, he could be in a lot of hot water. Now, there's nothing wrong with his lawyer telling you that's what he wants and omitting the fact that most judges, etc. would not approve of it anyway. He's under no legal obligation to explain that it does or doesn't benefit you. His duty, again, is to HIS client.
Really, you'd be well served to get your own lawyer and put this through him or her. If your husband has counsel, you need someone to have your back. I know it's expensive, but it's well worth it in the long run.
Sorry but i don't see why your partner should pay more for the children than you, just because he earns more. Yes he should contribute to their upkeep. Regardless of wages, it should be split fairly 50/50. So many men (and women) shirk their responsibilities to their children at the time of divorces and after. Your children are lucky that they have a father that is both financially and most importantly emotionally connected to them. Stop moaning about how hard it is
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Thank you, this is probably the best advice I have heard.
Oh - daycare/child care IS separate from child support!
Good, I'm glad you've got an attorney!
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