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| Mon, 11-28-2005 - 2:07pm |
Hi I'm new here. Didn't expect to be here, I'm certain nobody does though.
We've been married for a year and 2 months.
I'm pregnant, due in March.
My DH is an alcoholic.
Sex is no good.
He pays me no attention.
He is lazy and does nothing in the house.
He doesn't take care of himself.
He just works- a lot!
He is very successful at his job.
I stay at home.
All we do is argue.
That's it in a nutshell, and if I went into detail I'd probably puke.
I want a divorce.
Where do I check to see if Colorado will grant dissolution to a married couple where wife is pregnant? Anybody have any websites, etc...?
Thanks, Laura

Best of luck in your decision. Are you OK to work? It's just about impossible in my town to get hired if you are showing... they have 100 other good applicants who are NOT going out on maternity as soon as they get trained.
You've been through the newborn routine before. It will be very difficult on your own. More than living with a man who argues? I do not know that answer. That is for you to decide. If you were to completely give up on trying to get him to do anything (besides work), would that be of any assistance in reducing the arguing? Are your kids hearing all of this, or can it be kept away from them?
If you have weighed all options, and decided you must go, then there is a last step to take. Run it all past someone who truly cares for you. I think it will mean a lot to your peace of mind later on, if you have back-up from someone who is not now pregnant. Hormones can have a funny effect. You never know. Take care.
Thank you. And I'm not going to go to work before the baby's born, plus I'm on bedrest for complications. I'm educatecd as an engineer so I can get a job and make good money easily. I'll be keeping the house, he can make the payments on it! I'll keep my new car. He'll pay alimoney and child support. And he'll continue to pay for the nanny. These I won't budge on.
Sometimes the kids hear it. He has two and so do I. Mine are with their Dad at school and his are here sometimes. And he doesn't yell, he is very smug and coy and sarcastic. I on the other hand yell and avoid doing so in front of the children.
I have given up that he'll help around the house or do much of anything else other than work. It doesnt' help because I cry all the time...that my house is dirty and the kids haven't been fed, etc... so being on bedrest for this pregnancy doesn't work. I'm doing all the house stuff.
Even this morning, I needed an armchair taken down to my office/sewing room and he said for me to do it my "blank" self. So, I carried a chair down to the basement from way upstairs while crying and he watched me do it all. His sweet 9 year old son ran to me and asked to help.
I'm sick of this and I know that hormones make stuff weird and blown out of proportion sometimes but this crap has been going on pretty much since we got married and transferred here to the town that we live in.
Argh...anyhow, I need to run to the grocery store.
-Laura
Laura,
I just wanted to send "Hugs" your way. It must be very difficult to be going through all of this while your pregnant. Can a family member or a close friend come to your place and help out? If your suppose to be on bed rest theres a reason for it and you really should put yourself and your baby first. If dinners not made, order in chinese or pizza, get the children to pitch in and help out, get a cleaning lady in if you have too. Hang in there, and please keep us posted.
Big Hugs
Heidi.
I understand.
My H left while I was pregnant with our second child. ( planned ) I was heartbroken and the stress was unbearable, especially while pregnant.
Many hugs to you.