The next time you see or talk to your STBX, tell him that he WILL NOT be able to see the children if he insists on using them as pawns in the divorce. Tell him that you will file a temporary order for him to have SUPERVISED visitation if it continues. Tell him that your sorry that he's upset, but making the kids upset is not going to do anything but screw up your kids and that when they get older, they might resent him for it.
If that doesn't work, I guess all I could tell you that he should no longer contact you directly....only through your attorney.
Good luck and I hope he wises up and does what is best for your kids.
He's using your kids as a weapon against you. So, no, he shouldn't be allowed to march in and tell them things they don't understand.
If he spends time with the kids make a public place: a park, playground, McDonald's, etc. Set a time limit and stick to it. (He needs to be the first to depart in any case.).
Consider therapy for your kids if you feel this is going to be dragged out and get worse. They aren't old enough to understand and when your STBX lays guilt on them, he's not helping himself or them. He's just dumping an adult issue on a kid.
Good luck and let us know how you're doing.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
The next time you see or talk to your STBX, tell him that he WILL NOT be able to see the children if he insists on using them as pawns in the divorce. Tell him that you will file a temporary order for him to have SUPERVISED visitation if it continues. Tell him that your sorry that he's upset, but making the kids upset is not going to do anything but screw up your kids and that when they get older, they might resent him for it.
If that doesn't work, I guess all I could tell you that he should no longer contact you directly....only through your attorney.
Good luck and I hope he wises up and does what is best for your kids.
I didn't think there was anything that could be done about it - thanks for the tip.
Chult,
He's using your kids as a weapon against you. So, no, he shouldn't be allowed to march in and tell them things they don't understand.
If he spends time with the kids make a public place: a park, playground, McDonald's, etc. Set a time limit and stick to it. (He needs to be the first to depart in any case.).
Consider therapy for your kids if you feel this is going to be dragged out and get worse. They aren't old enough to understand and when your STBX lays guilt on them, he's not helping himself or them. He's just dumping an adult issue on a kid.
Good luck and let us know how you're doing.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Be very, very careful. You cannot deny you H the right to see the kids. They are not YOUR kids no more than HIS kids. The kids belong to bo of you.
I would suggest that you let him take the kids for a prolonged time, a few hours or possible a day.
Also, if the house is both names there is noting stopping him from going into the house. He could conceivable move back in.
Please a see an attorney.
stunned08