Don't know what to do ?

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Don't know what to do ?
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 10:16am
So i have been married for about 4 years. Wish i could say that it has been happy, but i'm not! Currently going to counseling, wish i could say that its's helping, but it hasn't. My husband isn't a bad person, no cheating, drinking, etc etc. Just not in love with him. It's like living with a roommate, he does his thing and i do mine. about 9 months ago, i told him i wanted a divorce, he cried and begged me to stay, so I backed down and have stayed. Asked how could i just give up on him like that( I guess its due to the promise I made, comittment and moral issues. Some where along the way I started to have very strong feelings for a friend of mine, i actually found myself falling in love with him. He treats me like a princess, he makes me laugh, is always there for me if i need him and is just an all around great guy (and it's not just me saying these things, everyone really thinks he's great). I really just want to be with him, but i feel like i can't get out of the marriage. I'm so afraid of hurting everyone, my husband, his family, my family etc etc. I'm so confused what to do !!!! I can't even hang out with my male friend now, because when i'm with him, all i want to do is be with him. Who my kidding even when he's not around all i want to do is be with him.