Don't trust the untrustable...

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Don't trust the untrustable...
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 2:20pm

I'm so sorry, most of my posts are about child support. First x was paying a few days late, then last month he bounced it and now he just sent me an e-mail that the payment will be here on Friday! It's due on the first and while I understand that it was a holiday, that check should be in my mailbox TODAY. Now, I was counting on that payment to put gas in my car and buy groceries and I can do neither. I have a very little bit of money in there to last me until I get my paycheck and now my CS payment on Friday. I am more than angry. Maybe next month I'll remember not to count the money at the beginning of the month, but of course, that's after I pay my mortgage and it's down to the bottom of my account. ARGH!

Melanie

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 2:37pm

I am in the same exact boat. Mine doesn't usually get here until the first of SECOND week of the month, when it's due on the first. He doesn't understand, i'm not made of money (as he seems to be) and I cannot pay my rent and all my other bills that are conveniently due on the first, until I get that check! Then when I call him about it he says "Be happy you are getting support, I shouldn't have to even pay this". He feels that since we are doing 50/50, he shouldn't have to pay anything. Yet I am the one that pays the daycare and majority of her clothing expenses. His support covers just about 50% of her daycare- yet he has this impression that I use his money to go on personal shopping sprees or something. Arghhhhh.

Lainie

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 5:50pm
I am sorry, but I don't know your history. Your ex must be self employed, otherwise you would probably have done a garnishment a long time ago. My ex is a liar too. He has been moved back into the state for two months now, and I have YET to recieve any child support from my so called garnishment. He hasn't paid a thing since the beginning of June. I have to say, child support enforcement has really done a BANG UP job with him! It's sad that no one in a position of power really gives a damn.
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 8:52pm

Yep, i'm there too. No money due to holidays. CS (for the entire month of December) was due by like the 27th. He said "I haven't gotten my check", etc. Now, he's ignoring my calls and text messages. I will text message him every 5 minutes until he responds. And January's payment should be in my hands by the 3rd week. What a loser. I know I'm not going to get both (Decembers in January and January's in January). What a loser!!!


My goal for this year should be that I get a garnishment order. I'm sick of this!!


I'm with ya if that makes you feel any better :)


Huge hugs


Deb


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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 9:44pm

Thanks for the responses, somehow it feels better to know I'm not the only one - although I hate that anyone else has to deal with this. I just feel like I'm living in a house of cards that he's built. I hate that he has this control over me and my pantry. sigh..

Melanie

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 10:35pm

Let me forewarn you now since you are still early in all of this. Do NOT do "the honor" system--where he pays you on his honor every week/month whatever. Get an order for garnishment NOW. This is the one single thing I regret most with my divorce. I dont have a garnishment order. I'm at his mercy. If he gets mad at me for whatever reason (ie. if I exhale wrong ;) ), I dont get my child support.


And, I just found out from my ex step mil that he did not work today and there's a risk he's going to be laid off. JUST LOVELY. I'm having shoulder surgery in 2 weeks. I can't afford this at all right now.....


My life stinks right now!!


Get the garnishment order. No more of him being in control of that.


HUGE hugs


Deb

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 11:05pm
does spousal support come out in a garnishment too?my stbx is a bartender and thinks he's gonna hide his tips,like I haven't kept track of how much he makes every night,god he's an idiot.I have been told that the state i am in is very tough on ded beats,after missing three payments they yank your license.maybe he will finally have to own up to something.not like me putting up with his lies and even defending him helped.How liberal is everyones visitaton? I am just now filing out the paperwork and cannot afford an attorney,so any advice is welcome
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 11:24pm

I agree. As soon as my divorce is final (grrr another LONG story) it will be garnished, my attorney promised, but she told me this would be done in a matter of weeks a YEAR AGO, so I'm not really feeling so confident in what she's telling me. I will bring it up again when we talk - if we ever talk again. I'm getting a bit bitter about this aren't I?

Melanie

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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 2:24pm

My EX is always behind.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 2:28pm

Hey... I just noticed.... it's 27 days ince Josh's birthday.... and 27 days until Jacob's birthday :-)


Poo on the pond scum!!!!... yours and mine!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~