Don't you think it's odd/strange/wrong..

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Don't you think it's odd/strange/wrong..
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Sat, 06-21-2008 - 8:04am

...that H is more interested in money matters, than custody/visitation issues? I've tried to get him to discuss/commit to a visitation agreement numerous times in the last month. No dice. Then he started pushing me to know how much money I "needed" last week. So I finally responded to him this week. He asked some annoying, stupid questions, then said he'd make sure the $$ was in the account and he was getting a new checking account for the rest of his paychecks.


He saw the children last on Tuesday. These $$ discussions went down via email Wed. and Thurs. and not once did he ask about the children or ask to set up another time to see them. Here it is Saturday and I've not heard from him regarding the children. Even my attorney noticed his (IMHO) misaligned priorities (money over visitation). So now I think we're just going to file for the divorce without any type of shared custody/visitation agreement (or even discussion) between H and me. That will probably mean more $$ and time in the long run, but I'm just stressed. It shouldn't be this way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2008

Yes, it is strange.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2008

Your STBX sound like a real self-centered jerk BabyBoo! Sorry to read this. But that's what I'm thinking too....there might be another woman. And I truly don't care, other than how sad it makes me for my children. And honestly, it's better to have the financial stuff set, before another woman tries to influence it or starts saying "that's not fair to you sweetie" to my STBX, KWIM?


Anyway, thanks for sharing. Sorry for what you're going through too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2008

Well I do know that the existence of an OW has been what has been driving my STBX to want to get this divorce done asap.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001

My stbx only cares about the money.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
That certainly is strange.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2008

I'm glad your ex chose to get your kids as often as he could.