Dreams dashed of having a baby

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Dreams dashed of having a baby
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 9:58am

STBX and myself were planning on TTC this fall. I graduate with my BS a year from now, so the timing was perfect. He came to me a few months ago and said we should wait until after I graduate to TTC b/c he didn't feel financially secure enough. I was hurt but agreed (I'm 30 and the clock is ticking!) Come to find out he was sleeping with the neighbor, that's the real reason he didn't want to start a family. After talking to the OW after I found out about her, she told me they are planning their future together and decided to go off the pill. He has known her for 7 months and been with me for 13 years.

We even had names picked out.

His family is as shocked as I am. I asked him about trying to have a baby with her and he denies it. He even has the nerve to tell me he has been using condoms with her the whole time. HA!! Yes, I did go to the Doc and promptly got tested for all STD's. How humiliating.

Anyway, had a rough night last night thinking about the family I'll never have with him. Keep having to reming myself that a liar and a cheater for a father would be pretty crappy, huh?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 10:47am

beanie_75...

PG thinks you came out the WINNER in this situation. The last thing any woman needs is to become pregnant by a man who can easily cheat on her with somebody else?

It'll be interesting to see what happens when your STBX decides that your neighbor ISN'T ENOUGH?

I'm sending you a couple hugs today because I know you're strong enough to get past this and move forward!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:18am

I'm sorry... but I agree with painoguy... better to find out things aren't "right" now, rather than later.


We're here with you.... HUGS!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~