DS in the ER...what a day...

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DS in the ER...what a day...
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:31am

I'm strangely calm after what was a very hard day.

My son has been ill on and off for weeks so today I took him to the doctor and they found his blood pressure was 160/120. The pediatrician said he needed to go to the ER and most likely admitted since it was high. I called my ex and while choking back tears told him what was happening and asked if he'd please pick up our daughter from school so I could get DS to the ER right away. He agreed and I, along with my new boyfriend, got the kiddo to the hospital.

As far as his health, the good news is all of the labs came back fine. It seems this may be a residual effect from a serious illness he had a few years ago. They sent us home with blood pressure meds and an appointment with a specialist on Thursday. (They didn't let us go lightly. We were there from 1-10:45 pm) I'm really hoping to get some good info at that appointment. I do not like the idea of my 11 year old being on blood pressure meds, and am hoping we can find out what is wrong so we can fix this.

Something that also happened today that I feel pretty good about is how things went with ex and his gf. My son, me, ex, ex's gf and my bf were all one big happy group in the room today. The VERY SMALL room. I tried very VERY hard to be as nice as possible. I knew I had to keep all of us behaving because the last thing my son needed was us acting like asses while he lay in a hospital bed with blood pressure through the roof.

Something I learned today about ex's gf is that this chick is clueless and doesn't get boundaries. It was so ridiculous at times that I couldn't even be mad. How can you be angry when you see someone who is clearly not getting it? I didn't get mad when she asked the doctor questions that my ex and I already had asked. I didn't get mad when she informed me that if my son was going to be admitted that she expected to have time with him at the hospital tomorrow. I didn't get mad EVEN when she asked us all if she could talk to my son ALONE. She literally cleared us all out of the room to have her time with him. (Well, okay, at this point I know it must have shown on my face that I was really annoyed, but I held my tongue! Mostly.)

Today I was mostly concerned about if my son was going to be okay or not, and tried to act like a grown up and not let her get to me. The main concern was HIM, not how much she annoys me. I even invited the two of them to drop by tomorrow to see how he is doing and stay for a visit.

The funny thing is I'm still sitting here, relieved my boy is home safe in his bed, and chuckling to myself about what a silly girl she is. Not angry.




Edited 12/20/2006 3:36 am ET by gwen227
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 6:33am

Gwen,

How scary for you and yours... please keep us posted after your update on Thursday and I'm proud of you (and everyone else) for remembering to really keep it on the up and up for your son, who needed that... and what a realization to make about silly girl... I think we have a new nickname for her... silly girl... just keep laughing... everyone will wonder what you're up to!

*hugs*

Julie

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 1:56pm

Thanks, Julie, he's doing fine. The nephrologist called today and they're going to do some testing on his heart tomorrow as well. I am so happy this is getting taken care of. I was so worried why he kept getting ill and why he had so many headaches.

As far as his dad and I go, something he said this morning really got to me. He started crying and said "Well, one good thing that has come out of this is, divorced or not, our whole family can be in one room together." I am really going to try very very hard to stop allowing things to bother me so much and just try to make a home that is comfortable for his father to come visit him in. And, yes, the gf too.

I want my children to be happy. And I think yesterday finally helped me feel less threatened about the gf. Yes, she's trying too hard to be a mom figure. But no matter how hard she pushes and tries to claim my kids as partially her territory it doesn't make it so.