DS is trying my patience...
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DS is trying my patience...
| Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:57pm |
DS, 18, is really getting on my nerves. Yesterday, while he was at school, I answered 3 calls for him on our phone. 2 messages were from his work, and the other was from his "girlfriend". When DS got home after 9:30 last night, he went to his brother's room (where he was trying to go to sleep), turned on his light, and walked down the hall to his own room. I got out of bed ( it was an exhausting day, and I was just hanging out, watching some TV before turning in) to see what was up, and I told DS that there were a couple of messages for him. He got really rude, "I KNOW! WHY do you have to tell me this. I KNOW who called me." I told him, "Hey, I told the callers that I'd make sure you received your messages. *I* don't know if you've gotten these messages already." This has happened several times before, where he's been rude when I've told him about calls. Should I not give him his messages, or what? I will talk with him, and tell him that I don't appreciate his rudeness and disrespect, when I was trying to be considerate to him and his callers, but I'd appreciate any advice.

Here's the rule in my house (and I have 3 teens!).
OUCH! aren't those teens just sooooo sweet???? your ds cannot talk to you this way - period. and he needs to know that - you need to tell him (not when he's in a bad mood) that you will not tolerate his behavior.
other than that, i would follow sanquines advice: set up a message taking system that everyone will follow. when you take the message, say something like "I will leave this on (whereever you make up to leave messages) and I hope that john will see it". IOW - you take the message but don't make it your responsibility. I do this at work - i know that work and home are not the same, but still..... my boss rarely returns calls and then i get yelled at - so i simply say "i will put the note in her box or you can email her". and then when they call back to complain i say "as i told you, i put the note in her box".
I agree! That sounds
Hugs, Brenda