DSs want to see STB-Dud ...
Find a Conversation
| Mon, 06-19-2006 - 2:46pm |
ok everyone, say it with me ...
tomorrow, it will be 2 weeks since STB-Dud said: "come pick up your sons and raise them yourself, good luck with that!" ordering me to do so after he could not get his way or overpower me with the intensity of his controlling nature .
now, on the heels of father's day weekend, like mother's day weekend, STB-Dud chose to spend laid up with skank GF outta town while his sons desperately wanted to spend the weekend with him.
they have been feeling wayyy "down" because, of course, i have not shared with them the true story as to why they are with me FULL time when they are used to spending so much time with their father. so, they just keep asking, "Mom.Me, why can't you just drop us over Daddy's house?" this loaded question after DSs placed countless calls to him (over the past week), wherein Dud only returned ONE to tell his sons "he'd be out of town and would see them later" ... nice.
Dud's mother, my MIL, lives with him. so, i was thinking about doing a "drive by drop off" of twin DSs. i figure if i drop the boys with grandma, he HAS to see them and spend time with them. i know he's just withdrawing his physical, emotional, and financial presence in their lives just to hurt ME. but how could he hurt these bunchkins soooo much, i do not understand!!
i know i can't "force" him to spend time with his sons, but i figure, if they're over grandma's spending time with her, by "default" they can see and spend time with their Dud, oops, Dad.
dilemma, need advice, what should i do??

If grandma wants to see them, then drop them off there.... otherwise, you've got to remind them that if daddy doesn't answer the phone, he might not be home or he may have other plans... and we can't just "drop" in.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~