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| Wed, 12-28-2005 - 11:17am |
Things had been feeling not quite right for a few months,but I thought it was a rough patch and that we would work it out.then I checked his cell phone,which unless you are prepared to hear the truth,don't do it.there was a text message from a woman he works with
I confronted him,and he started saying how things were bad for a long time and it wasn't working,and everything else they read in the how to make her feel worse and lessen your guilt.I was completely blindsided.I stood by this man through an affair,a tour in iraq,you mane it,I tried everything to make my marriage work.We have two little girls who are starting school this year,which is when I was going to go back to school.He was going to wait until I got out of school before coming clean.I am so angry that for 7 years I have willingly handed over my dignity and self respect for this man who clearly has no morals or soul.I am scared that I am going to fail my daughters and most of all, that I will never trust any man again.I know I will be ok long term,but right now I feel like I am drowning and could really use some advice.thank you
I confronted him,and he started saying how things were bad for a long time and it wasn't working,and everything else they read in the how to make her feel worse and lessen your guilt.I was completely blindsided.I stood by this man through an affair,a tour in iraq,you mane it,I tried everything to make my marriage work.We have two little girls who are starting school this year,which is when I was going to go back to school.He was going to wait until I got out of school before coming clean.I am so angry that for 7 years I have willingly handed over my dignity and self respect for this man who clearly has no morals or soul.I am scared that I am going to fail my daughters and most of all, that I will never trust any man again.I know I will be ok long term,but right now I feel like I am drowning and could really use some advice.thank you

HUGS to you. What a shock.
You are not going to fail your daughters. You sound intelligent and resourceful.
First, I would suggest counseling. I have been going, and it is so helpful. It's great to have the extra support and advice when you're going through a divorce.
As for trusting another man, that will come in time. I promise you, not every man is like your husband. Once you've had some time and distance from the pain, you will see that.
Good luck, and post often. This board is a wonderful resource.
Hugs to you Heather. I am so sorry that you are going through this, but please keep in mind, knowledge is power. At least you know what's going on and can move on for your and your daughters' sakes. It sounds to me like you have done everything you can to stay with your husband and to make this work, but as you know it takes two. You have definately come to the right place, this board is wonderful.
Melanie