On the emotional roller coaster

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Registered: 05-14-2007
On the emotional roller coaster
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 12:12am

So, today was a rough day. STBX was feeling "left out" of kid activities at my house (I filed first-got house kids and all) and he begged me to go to joint counseling next week. I agreed and spent the day having fun with no less than 9 kids all day. Fine, it was fun.

He was and is in real financial trouble and is being helped by MY parents. So, he's in crisis and needs $ from my folks, but had some conditions to the release of more funds. So, what's he doing tonight? Working on his work problems? No! He's out with friends eating out and drinking. I haven't been out like that in months. I can't afford it.

It makes me SO MAD that I wasted one whole day feeling guilty for shutting him out of my life. He is entirely unaffected by the reality of our marital and (entirely created by HIM) financial problems.

He also has been verbally abusinve with all of us. It's not just the financial betrayal driving my need to get away.

I guess I will go to the joint counseling and have quite a lot to say. He's such a jerk!

I am so lucky to have my family. They have given me the power ($) to follow through with divorce.

Valerie

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Registered: 04-07-2007
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 12:15pm
Your family is supporting him with money? How does that make you feel? To me, it seems that your family shouldn't be doing that. If you're really wanting to go through with the divorce, this seems like one of the very first things that needs to be stopped.
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Registered: 05-14-2007
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 5:19pm

It makes me MAD at him. He incurred debt by mismanaging his business. My parents had agreed to help him before the divorce filing and we're just trying to do the right thing.

It's that or bankruptcy and maybe jail for him.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 8:25am

I can understand feeling responsible to help him out. Just make sure you are protecting yourself, your kids and even your parents. I would make sure you consult your lawyer about all of this.

So sorry you are going through this.